sor·row \ˈsär-(ˌ)ō, ˈsȯr-\ noun
1 a : deep distress, sadness, or regret especially for the loss of someone or something loved b : resultant unhappy or unpleasant state
2 : a cause of grief or sadness
3 : a display of grief or sadness
Sorrow is a word that, thankfully, we do not use very much in the English language. It conveys a deep sadness that we usually only feel when someone close to us dies. Grief is also associated with it, but it is so much more. It is a culmination of almost every bad feeling you can have at the same time. There is remorse for things done or not done, words said or not said, and actions taken or not taken. Which brings about regret for not doing what we could, when we could. Regret feeds our anger at ourselves, at the object of our sorrow, and/or at the world in general. We look for a place to release our anger. The release rarely has good connotations. We take reckless actions that only fuel our regret. Even if we act on our anger, or manage to keep it at bay, the final step comes in the realization that no matter what action we take we can not change the past; what has happened has happened. We are helpless to do anything about it and our helplessness always leads back to sadness.
I am there today. The reasons, like most causes of sorrow, are personal and I will not divulge them in this post, but I will say that I am not sorrowful over the death of a beloved one. But, that does not make this sorrow any less wounding. It does not make the tear tracks on my cheeks less valid. I have felt less pain than this when someone close to me has died.
As I have discovered before, writing has a cathartic release. So, I turn to this blog to ease the sadness, remorse, regret, anger, and helplessness that I feel. My hope is that it too may help you work though your sorrow. Sorrow has two enemies – Time and Love. Sorrow is naturally lessened by the effects of time and with the love of our family and friends, we are allowed to face our sorrow; exchanging it in hopes for a brighter days ahead. While some sorrows may never fully subside, we learn to cope with them and survive. Because in this life, the happy moments we can share with others are worth all the sorrow we must endure.